It’s not uncommon for abductees and contactees to be told their soul has some close kinship with the abductors. For example someone may be told he or she was once a gray and is now occupying human form for whatever purpose, perhaps to experience human emotions or act as ground personnel to soften humanity up to the alien reality.
As far as I can tell this is a disinformation ploy designed to circumvent any freewill-based resistance that might interfere with the abductors’ ability to more thoroughly “use” the individual. Feelings of kinship and empathy induced in an abductee amount to a freewill invitation for further contact with the abductors, which is ultimately asking for further exploitation.
The darkside loves twisting truth toward negative ends. Many abductees may be Wanderers, spiritual beings from a higher density who have incarnated here to shed a little light into the darkness. But any vague notions they might have of their spiritual origins can be cunningly diverted toward concluding they share identity with the very beings they have come here to undermine, the cybernetic custodians of the Matrix Control System. For example, those in the Starseed movement face that risk.
Sure, different people have souls that originate from different realms, some are alien and some are more terrestrial depending on how many lives they have spent wearing the human form versus that of some other 3D/4D species, but to get your soul origin mixed up and thereby align your will with the ‘wrong’ group, that is a literal invitation for trouble.
One question is whether grays are artificial beings, or whether there are organic variations with their own independent history as a species. Obviously if they are artificial, it would be ludicrous for one to have a gray soul. Otherwise, it could be a possibility if all the signs point toward it.
But many methods of deception exist: you could have an alien entity attachment, and its influence upon your thoughts/feelings/actions could be very convincing as being those of your own volition and nature — especially when reinforced by mind programming and by suggestions from odd characters you meet who profess to tell you who you are. Read Dr William Baldwin’s book CEVI for more info on alien entity attachments.
So in seeking your identity, it’s best to be cautious before swearing your allegiance and aligning your destiny with it. If you really want to know who you are, make an earnest request to the highest positive spiritual forces (like your Highest Self) to be led toward discovering who you are. Pieces will fall into place, memories and clues will surface, and in the end you will understand yourself better and know why you are here.
Is it important to know who you are? Depends on whether you are here strictly to learn and experience, or whether you are also here on a mission. In the first case getting hung up on past lives can interfere with the current life unless this knowledge is used solely to observe karmic patterns and resolve them. In the second case studying the past helps you understand yourself in the present and increases your chances of accomplishing your purpose, which is why diversion at this stage is seen as critical by hostile forces.